There have been many cases some on formal records and some informally avoided of confrontation but is it really not important to prevent it from happening… it is known in many terms some call it as possessive act and some incompatibility in relationship… but the word is DOMESTIC ABUSE.
Domestic Abuse is an act or behavior that inflicts or is intended to inflict physical harm. Along with the physical violence there are hurtful words which demean another person as well as threaten with violence. Making light of the abuse and not taking her concerns about it seriously, saying the abuse never happened shifting responsibility for abusive behavior is not a right way to deal with such situation. To Abuse is almost entirely about control of the abuser over the victim. It is often a primitive and immature reaction to life circumstances in which the abuser (usually in his childhood) was rendered helpless. It is about re-exerting one's identity, re-establishing predictability, mastering the environment – human and physical. The abuser, losing control means going insane as he is aware of the victims “INABILITY TO EXPRESS FEELINGS WITH WORDS” which makes other people as mere elements in the abuser's mind. Abusive individuals are usually very emotionally dependent on their spouse who soon makes them feel inability to manipulate or to control their own life as they start feeling lack of support in their relationship. Imagine if you suddenly were to find out that you cannot manipulate your memories or control your thoughts... Nightmarish!
The abuser acts unpredictably, capriciously, inconsistently and irrationally. Most victims attempt to present to their children a "balanced" picture of the relationship and of the abusive spouse but here children have a right to know the overall state of affairs between their parents. They have a right not to be cheated and deluded into thinking that "everything is basically OK" – or that the separation is reversible. Both parents are under a moral obligation to tell their offspring the truth: the relationship is over because most men who abuse their partner go on to abuse their children. The victimized parent should tell the child that abusive conduct is wrong and must be avoided. The child should be taught how to identify the warning signs of impending abuse – sexual, verbal, psychological, and physical.
Moreover, a responsible parent should teach the child how to resist inappropriate and hurtful actions. The child should be brought up to insist on being respected by the other parent, on having him or her observe the child's boundaries and accept the child's needs and emotions, choices, and preferences. The child should learn to say "no" and to walk away from potentially compromising situations with the abusive parent. The child should be brought up not to feel guilty for protecting himself or herself and for demanding his or her rights.
